Tuesday, 30 October 2018

5 reasons anxiety can be beneficial.

Anxiety is often intense, indescribable, and it can leave you feeling powerless and unable to focus on anything. However,  these feelings can occasionally be a good thing and can act as a warning sign to either danger or an important event which is rapidly approaching. Below are some of the many ways anxiety can help us to cope in certain situations.

We can predict accidents waiting to happen.  

When you have anxiety you plan ahead taking every detail into account, you're aware of any danger and will do anything you can to make sure disaster doesn't strike. So even though your sick of worrying, anxiety can ultimately keep you safe. 

We can make genuine friendships. 

Anxiety causes a lot of embarrassment and self-doubt which in a way can encourage you to associate with like-minded people such as yourself. From my own experience, I can normally guess when I'm annoying someone, or they just don't understand me, so I find it very difficult to open up. The great thing about anxiety is after all that embarrassment has disappeared and you can actually begin to have normal conversations without sweating and stuttering. You're able to express your insecurities and develop a genuine friendship.

We have great memories

I don't know about any of you, but I've always had a pretty good memory which is most probably because I overanalyze everything. I can't go a day without remembering something that happened five or six years ago. So this can be a good thing, when you're having a disagreement or somebody accuses you of lying, you can recall every inch of the conversation which helps you to shut the argument down and feel superior in the process.

We have more fun

Having anxiety prevents you from enjoying yourself, So when an opportunity arises, and you begin to relax and finally let your hair down, you'll enjoy yourself so much more than others, You will look forward to the next big day or night out.

You appreciate the little things. 

I find that I can become extremely excited about the smallest things this can be anything like new clothing, perfume or just getting comfy with a warm blanket and a nice cup of tea ready to watch a movie. Having anxiety can make you appreciate all the little things in life because our minds are so chaotic with worry all the time, it makes every small thing massive and can leave us feeling all happy inside.

Anxiety can be upsetting and leave me feeling very isolated but knowing the benefits of it gives me a little bit of comfort because it does have its upsides. 

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Monday, 29 October 2018

30 things that make me happy

30 things that make me happy

When I'm feeling depressed, all I want to do is either sit and stuff my face with junk food or curl up under the duvet and sleep the entire day away.  However being a mum I have absolutely no time for either of those things,  so I have to find ways to make me feel happy and be ready and able to take on the day. I've come up with a list of 30 things that make me feel happier, Let me know some of yours. The links below are affiliate links, If you choose to purchase anything through these links, you won't pay anything more, but I will receive a small commision. 

Spending time with my son, playing board games or making cakes.

taking long hot bubble baths with some of my favorite bath products.

Cuddles with my cat.

Watching a feel-good movie, or a scary film I have no idea why as they terrify me.

Listening to music

30 things that make me happy

I'm new to blogging but I love it because I can share my thoughts with the world, help people and make some new friends.

meditation which involves some of my favorite crystals I have a post on this read it here 

knitting or crocheting


Looking at old photographs.


Taking long walks by the sea, I love the ocean and can spend hours there.

30 things that make me happy

Hot chocolates

Phone a friend and put the world to rights

Turning tv and phones off 

Watching the sunset 

Making my son laugh 

Making jewelry


I love to play The Sims 4

Spending time with my family 

Painting my nails

Drinking a hot cup of tea 

30 things that make me happy

Pick some flowers

Read some quotes like some of these

Buying something online and having it delivered its like a little present to yourself

lighting incense and candles.

Watching Disney films 

dressing up 

Make plans with friends or family something to look forward to.

It's great to create one of these lists and look back on it whenever you're feeling down so you can remember all the ways to make yourself happy. xx

Wednesday, 24 October 2018

Crystals to help heal and treat anxiety and depression

Crystals to help heal and treat anxiety and depression

If you're suffering from anxiety and depression and have been searching for natural alternatives to medications, then using calming crystals Is a perfect way to heal your mind, body, and spirit. They can provide much-needed relief from everyday stress and pressures of life and help calm you down whenever your anxious, suffering palpitations, dealing with horrendous intrusive thoughts which can cause panic and self-doubt or just feeling miserable in general. Below are the different types of crystals which are perfect for anxiety and depression.


Amethyst is one of the most popular crystals because it attracts positive energy and helps us let go of any negative emotions such as anxiety, depression, and fear. Anxiety and Depression can cause insomnia, and we can lay wide awake contemplating everything that's gone wrong in our lives, every conversation, every argument, and every negative emotion. The Amethyst can encourage us to quit overthinking and quiet our noisy minds improving our sleep and help us feel calm and relaxed. 

Where to find Amethyst.

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You can purchase amethyst from almost anywhere and below are some of the best affordable crystals which you can either hold onto or wear as jewelry. 

Blue Lace Agate

If you suffer from social anxiety and public speaking one of the best and most helpful crystals is Blue Lace Agate it sends out a soothing energy that resembles calming ocean waves and can help you relax your mind. You can place blue lace agate anywhere on your body to promote healing.

Where to find Blue Lace Agate

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Rose Quartz

Rose quartz is the crystal of love, It encourages you to feel more in touch with yourself and helps you feel a sense of calm whilst encouraging deep breathing. Keep this lovely crystal anywhere you like in your bag, next to your bed, or take it to work with you and feel the amazing benefits.

Where to find Rose Quartz

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Each stone provides a different power, by using these stones you can start to heal yourself by escaping all that stress and anxiety and be able to calm down and feel more relaxed especially in stressful situations. 

I hope you find the right one for you x

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Wednesday, 17 October 2018

4 things you should never say to someone who is anxious or depressed. What you should be saying instead.

4 things you should never say to someone who is anxious or depressed. What you should be saying instead.

Okay so I've dealt with anxiety and depression for many years now, and I've had my fair share of arguments with friends and family who cannot truly understand how I feel. I appreciate they're trying to help, but they will often say something more hurtful than helpful. Occasionally, I've been guilty of taking somebody's witty comment for something negative, and I'll blow it massively out of proportion which obviously can cause a lot of upset and negativity. 

There are several ways to say something to someone without causing hurt and offense, below are just a few examples and the more helpful and understanding ways you can help instead. 

'Why are you so upset? there is nothing to be upset about'

For anxiety and depression sufferers, this is not the best thing to say because all there thoughts and feelings are extremely real and intense for them. I'm often so upset and anxious and most of the time it's for no apparent reason. What I need is somebody to just be there and listen to me ranting and raving so I can let out all my insecurities and frustrations. We struggle to see anything in a positive light and feel frightened and upset. 

Instead, try to understand and let them know that you're there and really listening, offer some helpful advice or just be a shoulder to cry on. 

'Calm Down'

Saying calm down will not help at all, in fact, it can make us Irritated and extremely stressed out. Anxiety and depression can cause deep sadness and anger, and it's really frustrating being told to calm down on command. 

Try to ask in a positive way why they're suddenly so angry and upset, ask what made them feel that way and what can you do to help.

'I know exactly how you feel'

Well no, you don't understand how I feel If you have never experienced anxiety and depression yourself. To say you know how I feel is not helpful in the slightest, you can come off sounding patronizing and insulting.

Try to let them know that however bad it seems right now things will get better and you're there to talk if they need a chat.

'You don't look depressed'

Many people with depression can be really good at hiding it, so to say to someone you look fine is not going to help at all, I am excellent at bottling up my feelings just because I am too embarrassed to admit when Im offended or upset.

Try to let them know you are there for them, and can always reach out to you if they're upset, angry, or in need of a good cry. 

Trying to help someone who is anxious and depressed can be really hard but being patient, understanding and knowing the right things to say can really help. Try to remember that if whoever you know is feeling this way and you're finding it incredibly hard to help them, just being there listening and offering a ton of support can really help make a difference. 

Tuesday, 16 October 2018

Do you struggle with social anxiety? try these quick little tips to help

If you suffer from social anxiety and you're out and about, it can seem like hell on earth, each minute feels like an eternity, and you cannot ignore the feeling that your being watched like everyone is staring at you from every direction. Not to mention the physical symptoms such as sweating, pounding heart, and increased breathing. There are some ways that you can help distract yourself from these feelings they're quick temporary fixes that can be very effective. 


Listening to music in your earphones whilst you are on your way is a great way to gain confidence. Music can make you feel a range of emotions depending what kind of mood you're in and can help you forget everything around you for a while which can help you feel happy and confident.

Smile and engage

When you arrive at the place you have been dreading for the last week or so, You slowly approach and see a group of people chatting amongst themselves laughing and joking. Your breathing becomes heavier, your heart races and you frantically try to think of something to say that won't make you feel embarrassed and awkward. Rather then stroll straight past, lift your head up high and be sure to smile, say hello and try to engage in some sort of conversation perhaps you could talk about the party, food, or something related to the conversation.


When you're feeling anxious, you tend to begin fidgeting and need something to distract yourself this can be anything like fiddling with a hair band or using your mobile phone.  

Make sure you arrive on time

Make sure you arrive on time, there is litrally nothing worse than walking into a party and having to deal with everybody looking at you, questioning why you are late, and most probably laughing about it, which will cause a lot of embarrassment. Try to be on time that way you can feel more comfortable and be able to greet guests as they arrive.

Take a little break

When it's getting a little too much, head out for some air or a bathroom break and take a few minutes to breathe and relax.

Limit your alcohol intake

I know its very tempting to have a drink because it can make you much more relaxed and confident and one or two is perfectly fine, but try and not go overboard because believe it or not alcohol can increase anxiety and cause unnecessary stress. 

Remember someone else could be anxious 

Even though it seems like you're the only person in the room who feels this way, just remember there is probably somebody else feeling the exact same way as you do, try to remember your not the only one. 

I'm still anxious when I'm socializing, but the tips above definitely help me feel more confident.

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Thursday, 11 October 2018

How to create a comforting self-care box

How to create a comforting self-care box

Owning a self-care box is great for your mental health, It not only improves our emotional well being, but it can give our confidence a much-needed boost. I've spent several lonely evenings sat staring into space dreading going to sleep because I know I'll have to wake up and deal with all these emotions all over again. Being able to open a box filled with all your favorite things and some lovely relaxation products can be very comforting and therapeutic, plus it can help you calm down and think more rationally. 

How to create a comforting self-care box

How to create your self-care box

  • Find a box any size you want you can use an old shoe box 
  • Decorate the box any way you like any style and colors don't stress in no way does this have to be perfect. 
  • Use glitter, sequins old pictures, paint anything. 
  • Inside your box, you could use tissue paper stickers anything remember this is only for you decorate however you wish. 

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If you don't want to create your own, then take a look at some of these ready-made boxes below, click on the link if you wish to purchase. 

Usually, when I'm annoyingly anxious, I find myself fidgeting, and unable to concentrate on anything else this is why I love having a self-care box because it can distract me and help me feel more relaxed and comforted. Here are a few examples of what you can put in there...

  • Photographs
  • journals
  • a soft blanket 
  • favorite books
  • favorite movies
  • knitting needles and some soft wool
  • coloring books 
  • scented candles
  • incense
  • soft tissues
  • puzzle books
  • bubble bath
  • anxiety bracelets
  • crystals
  • snacks
  • essential oils 
  • fidget spinner 
  • an old teddy bear 
  • hand cream 
  • nail varnish

Put your box in a safe place that's easily reachable so if your feeling down one evening all you got to do is take out some of your favorite things and you'll begin to take your mind off whatever you're upset and worried about. 

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Wednesday, 10 October 2018

7 uplifting depression quotes

I've experienced depression for several years now, and one of the ways I can make myself feel a little better is discovering an inspirational and uplifting quote to help and encourage me throughout the day. There are many out there which I love, and I have them everywhere on my phone, in my journal, on my fridge, on the wall even on some pillows on my sofa. Below are 7 of my favorite quotes I hope they can help you as well. 

7 uplifting depression quotes

7 uplifting depression quotes

7 uplifting depression quotes

7 uplifting depression quotes

7 uplifting depression quotes

7 uplifting depression quotes

7 uplifting depression quotes

I really hope some of these can help you. If you can think of some more, let me know in the comments I would love to hear from you. xx