Wednesday, 28 November 2018

How my anxiety and depression affects Christmas, with some tips to help you relax.

Christmas is upon us its the time of year to be joyful, thankful and spend time with family and friends. When I was a child, I loved this time of year it was magical and exciting spending time with family where me and my cousin would race around the house playing games, drink hot chocolate, relax in front of the fireplace to tell stories, listen to Christmas music, bake gingerbread houses we had not a care in the world. As we grew into distant relatives, Christmas became stressful, family conflicts meant we struggled to be in the same room with one another without some kind of disagreements or uncomfortable silences. The anticipation throughout the year is no longer exciting it's now turned into dread, frustration, and disappointment. I struggle each day with my emotions, so having to face family and friends throughout Christmas when I'm feeling like I have to pretend to be happy and having loads of fun is extremely tough.

Don't get me wrong I'm not saying I don't like Christmas I still love it and love spending time with our son and little family. But while everyone is having fun and playing games, I'm taking frequent bathroom breaks just to sit and breath for a few minutes, trying my best to pull myself together for my son's sake making sure he has a magical experience like I used to as a child.

When it comes to resolutions, everyone wishes for new beginnings, new jobs, new homes, and I'm silently wishing to not feel this way anymore. I want to be like others happy and carefree. I don't want to feel unable to survive each day without some sort of irrational worry, I don't want to fight to get out of bed each morning without being terrified of the long, intimidating day ahead, I don't want to spend each day scared to death about my health. Most of all I don't want to feel depressed anymore and have that uncontrollable wave of sadness for no apparent reason. Over the years, I still dread the idea of having everything perfect and having to try and please everyone, but I now try to prepare myself and take some time out which is a lot easier said then done but it is possible.

There are ways you to help better prepare yourself for Christmas and let go of negativity, Christmas is a time to be positive after all.

Some ways to try and relax and enjoy yourself.

Take some time out.

Let's face it Christmas is bloody hard work the amount of preparation it takes just for one day is ridiculous so taking some time out to yourself to rest and de-stress is really important. Unwind in a relaxing bath like this one see here, take a long walk along the beach, discover something you can do for yourself and nobody else. 

Try to tell people how you feel.

Don't suffer in silence if you're feeling overwhelmed and contemplating abandoning Christmas altogether, chat to a close friend or relative let them know you need help you will feel much better after revealing your true feelings. 

You don't have to please everyone.

Christmas is expensive most things are very overpriced, and when you have hardly any money, it's so upsetting knowing that you cannot buy your loved ones gifts. However, not everyone expects presents a simple card goes a long way. Don't get caught up in that shopping hell trying to find bargains left to right and center. Explain to people your money situation at the moment I'm sure they will understand you should never feel pressured. 

Don't feel like you have to have the perfect day.

In the movies, Christmas seems like a magical, joyful, perfect time of year. In real life, it doesn't have to be like that I've had my fair share of ups and downs. Don't stress yourself by thinking Christmas has to be completely perfect, try to relax and enjoy yourself. 

Christmas is about spending time with family and having fun. I know its incredibly hard to do when you struggle with anxiety and depression, and you cannot wait for it to be over but just try to relax, destress, and accept some help.

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 Do you struggle with anxiety and depression over Christmas? How do you handle it? xx

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