Thursday, 7 March 2019

Why I started blogging and how much it's helped my mental health.



Before I started this blog, I'd sit each night crying watching some rubbish tv, feeling isolated, depressed and thought if I didn't have my son what would be the point in carrying on. Nobody knew how I was feeling, because I kept everything bottled up apart from the times I would sit and sob uncontrollably, and reassured everyone that I was fine, that it was just mummy hormones. I would stare into space bored and fed up with everything.


One day I was searching online for articles regarding anxiety and depression, and I noticed some amazing blogs, which I now cannot remember because life was a blur during that time. However, after reading and feeling exactly the same, I scrolled down to the comments and noticed the replies were full of like-minded people, and they were extremely supportive of each other its as if they were the best of friends and were there for each other day and night. I would love to have that, all I had was a journal, which I absolutely love but nobody can see it, nobody can comment, nobody can laugh with me, cry with me, and share the same insecurities as me.

After spending weeks questioning myself, wondering If I would be good enough and if anybody would have any interest In what I had to say, not to mention anxiety sneaking in and making me feel like a laughing stock. I couldn't handle people being mean and leaving any nasty comments, that would probably have made me give up, delete and never look online again.  So after months of thinking about it, I told myself that no matter what people will say or think about me its clearly in my mind continually for a reason, and it's not something I can forget so what the hell, I decided to give it a shot.

How I began.

I had no extra money to buy a domain name, so I had to create a free blog on blogger. I created multiple blogs and they weren't going well nobody was reading I had no comments no shares I felt ignored it was very disheartening. I tried several different niches one was a pet blog about cats, the next was an affiliate network blog full of Disney products, the next was about fashion and celebrities, and the one before this was a movie review blog. I wasn't passionate about any of these, I lost interest, and I just didn't have enough knowledge on them which Is why I deleted them.

I also wanted to remain anonymous, only because I didn't want my family to come across one of my posts and possibly be mad that I'm talking online and not to them, plus I would feel so embarrassed and think they would laugh and not take me seriously. I'm completely fine with being anonymous although I do understand that I could probably get some more shares and better promotion if I revealed myself, I'm not ready to do that just yet, I'm not saying never but at the moment being anonymous works fine. 

I wanted to write about my anxiety and depression, but I was too afraid In case I'd receive criticism it would horrify me, and I didn't feel brave enough to have to deal with that. So after weeks of feeling like a failure, one evening I was writing in my journal and suddenly thought this would be amazing if somebody could read it. So out came my laptop and I questioned for the best part of an hour if I should or shouldn't but I did, I logged into blogger.com, and stared at the screen attempting to come up with a username everything I picked was already taken, So I explored online for prompts and came across several which I liked, but again they were taken. I looked up words to describe depression and found the word broken than another word I saw on a magazine, which said peaceful so I played around with the words and decided to go with peacefully broken and that was that. To this day I'm not sure if I picked the right name, but I've had no negative comments about it, so I'm guessing it's okay, what do you think? 

I did it I made a blog, at that point, I had some extra money and brought my own domain name and I was ready, I kept the design rather simple then I started to write some posts.

How did I promote? 

At first, I only promoted my posts on Pinterest, which was okay I received some shares and saves, no comments though, but as long as people were reading that was more than enough for me. Time went past, and I started to realize that I needed more views and comments. I researched, and I read about bloglovin, mix.com and medium I placed my blog on all three and again received some shares and reads but that was it. I didn't feel connected with people, I wanted to talk, and realize what I was writing was actually helping somebody. As I mentioned above, I was too afraid to reveal my true self, so I tried to stay away from facebook and twitter in case my family noticed that it was me, but I realized I had to do it, it was the only way to gain more exposure.

So I signed up for Twitter rather than Facebook because most of my family haven't got twitter accounts so nobody could find me. Below are the names again of where I promote my posts, in case you're struggling like I was.

  • Pinterest
  • Mix.com
  • Medium.com
  • Twitter
  • Blogloving

How amazing Twitter is for promotion. 

I don't know why I didn't use twitter all along its amazing, I've made friends with like-minded people, my posts have been retweeted, and I've had plenty of comments which I never had before, everyone has been lovely and incredibly supportive. I no longer sit each night sad and alone I can log into Twitter and see what others are feeling and engage in conversations.

Each time I finish a post I immediately share to twitter which helps if you use relevant hashtags, and there are profiles on Twitter that you can mention and they will retweet your post to lots of their followers for you, it's great and very helpful. I would highly recommend using Twitter for promotion not only can you make friends but it can grow your blog immensely.

I have also been nominated for numerous versatile blogger awards, which was such a shock, I was overjoyed because I truly thought nobody would be interested in anything I had to say, so it was such a pleasant surprise.

How blogging has helped my anxiety and depression. 

As I said, I often feel so lonely, and I want to share my story with the world. I do have some very low days and have nobody to talk to, so I take out my laptop, erratically type away at an incredible rate, I cry, I laugh, I sob, and I have the never-ending doubts in my mind where I'm debating whether or not to press publish. However, after receiving a heartfelt comment, it makes the entire thing well worth it. Whenever I've had troubles in life I've wanted to hide away, take myself to bed and ignore the world but instead, I've written about it, and it truly does make me feel ten times better. It helps me get all my negative emotions out in the open and completely clears my mind. 

The people I talk to are from all over the world, and it's amazing to think that there are others out there, however many miles away you can connect with and help each other. My partner has noticed that in the last couple of weeks, I've sounded happier and haven't been crying uncontrollably on and off. Don't get me wrong, I have lots of bad days where my anxiety has got so bad that I physically can't even think about blogging, so I'm not saying its a lifelong cure or anything, but it's a pleasant way to beat loneliness and let out any thoughts and frustrations.

I highly recommend starting a blog, yes at first it can be dishearting because of the lack of comments or shares, but if you keep at it and try your best to connect with people, comment on some peoples blog posts which is very good for promotion, and post regularly you'll get there. Hopefully, you'll start to see some of the amazing effects it can have on mental health.

Thanks for reading I hope I have helped in some way. 








16 comments:

  1. I love the name you picked out for your blog! What I have learned from blogging is that if it comes from the heart then people will like it and read it. I'm glad that you started blogging and that it is helping you. I know that blogging is helping me feel better about life as well. Keep up the great work! 😀

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    1. I'm so glad you like the name I've been back and forth about it, but I'm started to like it a lot more now. It is really helping, I really enjoy it and I'm glad it's helping you too. Thank you so much for your comment. ♥♥

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  2. I'm so glad that starting your blog has really helped with your anxiety and depression. I honestly have had a similar experience. Although I didn't realise blogging was helping me until I came to the end of my journey with depression. I now feel much more able to speak about about these issues in the hope of helping others. xxx

    Ashley
    https://lellalee.com

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    1. Hey, It really has helped and I'm so glad I started It's so amazing that I'm able help others who deal with this. I'm so happy its helped you too, thank you for commenting. ♥♥

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  3. First of all, I absolutely adore your name! Second, I can definitely relate to this - I suffer with Anxiety Disorder myself and I've found that documenting my experiences through blogging has been so so helpful to me xxxx

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    1. Thank you, I'm so thrilled that you like it. I'm really happy that I started It's so amazing to be able to help people when they're struggling. I'm really glad it's helped you too. Thank you for commenting. ♥♥

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  4. I love your title. I'm happy blogging has helped you. I'm in the process of turning mine more towards bookish content with bits of history thrown in. There's still some other stuff on there, but I've been pulling back from that a bit. I will always believe that writing is one of the most ways to get stuff out of your mind. I'm glad it's helping you

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    1. Hey, I'd love to read your blog I'm very interested in history. Yeah, writing is so amazing and makes me feel so much better when I've got all those negative feelings out in the open, I just wish I started sooner. Thank you for commenting. ♥♥

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  5. Keep at it! Blogging is a very healthy coping mechanism and I applaud you for seeking positive ways to deal with your anxiety. much peace on your journey!

    Here's my blog if you are interested in following: fiddleheadsnfloss.com

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    1. Thank you so much and Peace to you too. Thanks for commenting. ♥♥

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  6. Very cool and very courageous. We started a blog site last year, where we talk about living as a disable couple, and my wife has blogged about her anxiety and depression a few times. This year, we've expanded to You Tube, which she's taken to extremely well.

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    1. Hey, I would love to check out your blog, that's amazing about Youtube I would never have the courage to use that. Truly happy for the pair of you. Thanks for reading. ♥

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  7. I love the name of your blog!! And it's great to hear that blogging has helped you so much. I've found that the blogging community is so supportive and generally lovely that it can really boost my mood: keep at it! :D

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    1. Hey, it really has helped me so much, and you're right everyone I've spoken to or have commented has been so kind. I was worried I would receive tons of negative comments, but I've had none so far, so I hope it can stay this way. I'll definitely be carrying on its such a comfort. Thanks for commenting. ♥

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  8. I've really enjoyed reading your blog. I started writing because it feels cathartic to get my thoughts out and written down. I'm not anonymous though and sometimes I do worry about what people will think but it's mostly been positive. Anyway, good luck with your blog x

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    1. Hey, I'm so glad you've enjoyed reading it, I honestly imagined people being nasty and hating it however, everyone's been so lovely. Eventually I will reveal myself, but for now I'll stay anonymous just until I work up the courage to show my family and let them have a long read. I'm glad everyone's been supportive of you too. Thank you for commenting. ♥

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